The Gift of Giving
Several years ago my good British friend started sending me the famed Christmas Adverts of John Lewis – a UK department store that creates heartfelt, lovely little TV commercials each year. They’re generally comprised of a touching message and a famous song covered by an unassuming artist. Although its such a treat to see what song and artist they chose each year, my favorite surprise is to discover which adorable store they decided to create.
See the 2011 advert for yourself:
1 – Can I please have a little boy like this? I just want to kiss his impatient little face!
2 – His reason for being so eager for Christmas Day melts my heart.
I have to say, props to this little boy – seeing as I was never this thoughtful when I was younger. Typical of child’s selfish and insatiable greed – Christmas was all about what I was gonna get and giving gifts was a minuscule after thought. I mean, giving was fun sometimes but the thought that went in to truly finding something my parents would love, ugh, too tasking!
Well, my train of thought has finally hit a total 180 – I find so much more pleasure in giving gifts than I do in receiving them. In fact, I no longer give a second glance to what is under the tree for me, but rather relish in being the household wrapper – tucked away in my parents room with everyone’s gifts strewn across the bed – a glass of wine and scissors in hand (that sounds worrisome). My Christmas thrill comes from bringing out the gifts and waiting till Christmas morning to see others open my gifts to them.
Now – I’m not some selfless saint. The Baby Jesus has not shined his light on me and all of sudden I’m a changed woman. Quite the opposite, I’m still wholeheartedly and unfortunately selfish. In my personal life, I don’t bend my schedule for others and if I don’t want to do something – I just won’t – no matter the persisting persuasion. I think my flip of giving rather than receiving has much more to do with being an adult and feeling pleased by pleasing others – receiving approval, a thumbs up for my efforts – rather than getting something tangible and enjoying it for myself. As I’ve grown older, having a shared satisfaction is much more rewarding then hoarding happiness for myself.
Again, not a saintly change of heart but rather a scientific fact…. According to “The Psychology Behind Gift-Giving and Generosity,” an article by Maria Konnikova, studies show that people actually feel happier when giving a gift rather than receiving one. See Link: The Psychology Behind Gift Giving and Generosity
So there it is my friends – give and you shall receive (happiness). It’s not all fluffy, lovey-dovey, lets-be-good-people stuff. Give to others and find yourself feeling good, its the real deal!